What a week this has been - I truly don't think I've ever been so busy in my entire life. Work could be a 24 hour job right now, however, as I grow up and start looking at the world through more mature eyes, I am starting to learn that my personal life should not be brushed aside for a professional one.
A happy balance between the two is what is necessary.
One of the major reasons I have started to grow and mature in the last year to six months, as been the love, friendship, and relationship of Jared. I will admit, the past 3 years I have been somewhat of a party girl. I loved it. I have no regrets at all for having plans practically every day of the week and for just having one hell of a good time. (no drugs or stupidity - just a lot of wine and a lot of flirting). But when Jared came into my life, I started to really see the value in having a solid homelife.
Don't get me wrong, Jared and I still go out and experience the world, but it's "different" now, and I like it. Staying home 3 nights a week, making dinner and watching Jeopardy has a whole new feeling when I'm curled up on the couch beside him. And the nights we do go out and hit the town, dayum I have the best looking date in the city!
Pre-Jared (now to be known as P.J.) I also found that I had a lot more male friends - A LOT more. Many of these guys are still friends, but it's funny how they rarely call, and now seem almost non-existent. As where over the past six months, my relationships with female friends have really blossomed. I've never had girlfriends like I have now.
This week alone I had two lunches, one workout and at least five phone conversations - all with females. This would never have happened P.J. And I really don't know why? And my relationship with these girls seems so much more "real" then any friendship I had with any boy. I am learning and caring about these women at a way deeper level - learning about their goals, what makes them happy, their children, boyfriends (or hubby's or fiance's), and of course, all the fun stuff too...
And I love it - because they ask about all those things from my perspective as well. No judging, no prejuidice, no preconceptions - just pure friendship. I never had that with a boy (okay, maybe a few gay boys), but never any of the males I hung out with P.J.
Which brings me back to the age-old question? Can men and women JUST be friends? From the market research I've recently conducted, the answer is a resounding "no". However, as we grow up our relationships with other females become a necessary, do they in fact offer a certain element into our lives that a man can not provide? Absolutely, and without a doubt.
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